How did I get here?
For the first 10 years as a parent, I thought I was managing quite well. People told me I had lovely, well-behaved kids. We played together, read together, talked and laughed together. I prioritised them over everything else in my life. I did this while working an intense job and was exhausted and stressed most of the time. I always compared myself to other parents and thought, "how do they make this all look easy"? However, I still felt blessed at how lucky I was to have this full and good life. And then my real-life lesson happened.
One of our children started struggling and was deteriorating before our eyes. After a very difficult period filled with shouting, fights, tears, sleepless nights and exhausting family life, our child was diagnosed with Autism. We had to process this new reality, help build up our child, their siblings and our family again. This was a difficult struggle, but we learnt from many that had gone before us, from social workers, medical professionals, support organisations, parent support groups and parent coaches how to cope. Not just to cope but how to thrive. More recently another one of our children has struggled too and has also been diagnosed with their own neurodiversity. This time we were much better equipped to deal with this reality. I won’t lie though, some days it’s still tough.
Through all this journey, and from the support of wonderful people along the way, I realised I wanted to get back to my roots of helping people, making a difference to other people’s lives, just as others had done for me.
This is how I came to be a Jai Certified Parent Coach.
Parenting
We all want to do our best as parents. In today’s world with so much access to information, it is hard to know where to begin. Which information is well researched and based on scientific evidence? What should we follow when one contradicts the other? With Jai's up to date, ?? relevant process using nervous system science, non-violent communication and (fill in the blank) I can help you achieve your parenting goals. This journey is about you, not me.
I would love to accompany you on your transformational parenting journey.
Your Journey
Your parenting journey doesn’t always turn out how you imagined it would. The ideals you had are not always easy to maintain when you are exhausted from working, parenting and doing the endless chores involved in managing the logistics of family life. When there is no time to breathe or take time for yourself. How can you parent calmly in this situation?
It is possible and I can show you how.
Do you want to stop shouting and reacting to everything? To reduce the arguments and meltdowns? To make your family home a peaceful and collaborative place to be? I won't pretend there are not hard days. we all have them as parents. I will give you tools to manage these days and move forward.
Your Transformation
- Is the “tough love” or “go with the flow” approach not creating a peaceful family environment?
- Do you find that what worked for one of your children doesn’t work for your other children?
- Did neurodiversity in your child throw your rule book out the window?
- Is your parenting going well but you want it to be even better?
- What is your parenting dream? How do you picture your ideal family life?
- Do you want it to be a place of mutual respect, connected conversations, love and understanding?
There is a transformational path for all of us.
Prioritise you
After years of not making time for myself and always finding an excuse for why I have no time for me, I have learnt to prioritise myself. I do Pilates, I have discovered a love for gardening (well maybe a small obsession). I have rediscovered my childhood love for jigsaw puzzles, which I have shared with my children.
Doing what makes you calm, relaxes you or even invigorates you to help you regulate your nervous system is a must.
I can help you make time for yourself.
Meet Gabi
I am the founder of Gabi Feder Parent Coach. I have been living in Israel for the last 20 years having grown up in England. I have a degree in Physiology and a Nursing qualification in Israel and the UK where I worked as a nurse in Intensive Care. In this role I cared for patients at their sickest times, advocated for them when they often couldn’t advocate for themselves, as well as supporting their loved ones. Caring and helping is in my blood, and I am ready to listen and guide you to find your truth and balance.
I spent many years working in the Digital Health arena in various roles, working with development teams, C-suite level executives and clinicians from all over the world. I learnt how to listen to my customer’s needs, to deep dive into the details to create a product that answered their needs. More recently I have worked on a project for the Ministry of Health.
As a mum of 3 wonderful children that I am raising with my husband, I am always trying to manage the work-life balance so that I can dedicate quality time to parenting as best I can.
As a Jai certified parent coach, I have the tools and understanding to help you to create the family life you desire and deserve.
Testimonials
Claire, Wales
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Orly, Israel
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Rachel, Israel
Rachel, Israel
"Working with Gabi had such a positive change on my parenting and our family life. Learning to regulate my nervous system so I could help regulate my children was so helpful."